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Stop Searching for Validation

The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.

~ Mohadesa Najumi ~

I can’t speak for men, but I believe that many women search for validation and approval from family, friends, coworkers, the world in general. This gets you into a dangerous spot because everyone has thoughts as to how you should or should not live your life. So if you start trying to live your life to please them and make them happy instead of God first and yourself second,  you will make yourself miserable. You’ll be fake and exhausted from trying to be someone you’re not.

Stop looking for approval and acceptance. Be you. Rock you. You do you like no one else can…cause there’s no other you’s out there. Make your decisions and feel good about them. No matter how small or insignificant one may seem. If you need to change your mind on previous decisions you made. Change it. Be confident and sure of yourself.

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Stop Competing

If All Girls

If all girls were taught how to love each other fiercely

instead of how to compete with each other and hate their own bodies,

what a different and beautiful world we would live in.

~ Nikita Gill

How strongly I wish this could be impressed on mother’s, aunt’s, grandmother’s, coworkers, teachers, the public. Stop teaching girls everything is a competition that they have to fight against each other to win. Instead, let’s encourage them to band together and fight with each other. Two are stronger than one. Find a lovely gal and be her friend. Build her up in ways that she needs. Let her build you up in ways that you need. Work together in this wild world, not against each other. You don’t need to be creating chaos. There’s enough out there with you making more. You are beautiful in and of your own way. Live like that.

I’m not beautiful like you, I’m beautiful like me.

You are lovely and charming. Maybe not like her, but that’s okay. If you are her, then who now is being you? Find the beauty inside of you and let that shine out for all the world to see. Work together with the loveliness in people and make the world wonder why you are different.

Admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own.

Don’t try to be her because you can’t be. She is her and let her be that way. Don’t try to conform her to be you. Don’t try and change her natural beauty, but rather instead…bring it to light in a beautiful and encouraging way. A yellow tulip isn’t ugly because it’s not a pink tulip. They are just different. We don’t look at the flowers in a garden and point out things we wish we could change. No!! We admire them for their own beauty!

Look at nature. Look at flowers. We never walk into our garden and say “oh wouldn’t that flower be so much more pretty if it were taller? or red instead of pink?” No, we don’t. Because nature was created perfect just as it is. And so are we. We are part of nature, we are how we’re meant to be, we are perfect just as we are.

God has made us absolutely perfect. For all the things that we dislike or find unattractive, he made us that way to make us unique. He loves us deeply.

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.

Psalm 139: 13-16

*quotes from Pinterest